Being a single mom I lead two lives. My life with my kids and without. Split custody gives me a lot of time with the kids, but also time to myself. I typically have my kids five days, then they spend five days with their dad.
Sitting here this morning, with the kids sleeping upstairs I realized how precious the moment was. It was quiet, I had time to myself, all was good in my house. I then started thinking about this. I have a lot of time to myself. What is my issue!
Baby Spawn talks A LOT! He is on as soon as he is awake and doesn't stop until he goes to sleep. Spawn just picks on him, so they are constantly bickering. Our house always has noise, always something going on. It is busy.
On top of that, my daughter plays soccer and softball on three different teams and my son plays baseball. So, our weekends are spent running from one game to the next to the next. Crazy yes, but we all love it. We are outside, they are active, part of a team, learning skills and staying out of trouble.
We get home and it is showers, dinner, cleaning, prepping. Down time is very minimal and when they do finally go to bed, I am so tired, I usually am asleep within minutes.
So the opportunity for quiet time very seldom arises.
I know, I know, I spend five days to myself... what the hell is my complaint? Really I have no idea! The kids may not be staying with me, but I am still at their games on the weekends, running from one to the other. I typically get in my long runs when they are gone. Taking care of appointments, errands and chores. They stay extra nights with me so their dad can go out or work OT.
For some reason, even when I do not have the kids, my life is so busy I don't get moments like these, to sit and enjoy my coffee.
Or maybe its a Mom thing, my kids are with me, in my protection, peaceful. I am happy and content.